Figure 1. Communicating on a child’s level can remove stress from an otherwise concerning situation. (Photo Source: Taryn Elliott, Pexels License)
How to use this method:
- Respond quickly and kindly to a child’s needs.
- Provide a listening ear or advice even at inconvenient times.
- Be responsive and consistent.
- Use positive and encouraging words when speaking with a child.
- Set a good example of how to talk to other people in public as well as at home by using manners and respect, such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “I’m sorry.”
- Avoid sarcasm or ill-willed teasing.
- Use positive, communicative forms of guidance and avoid any form of violent discipline such as spanking.
- Spend time alone with each child, even at a young age. Quality time coupled with open communication encourages the child to feel safe and comfortable with their parents and creates a reliable relationship.
- Peter and Dan’s mother always says, “Thank you for picking up your toys” after they put away the toys in their playroom.
- Kaila returns home from school and says that she has had a bad day at school. Kaila’s dad asks her what had made it a bad day and listens to Kaila explain what had happened.
- Using phrases such as, “I’m sorry,” “please,” “thank you”, and “I love you” often for children of all ages are recommended!